Comments on: Please don’t be offended http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/2008/07/10/please-dont-be-offended/ God, please help me not to be my parents Thu, 12 Nov 2009 14:26:47 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: SHARON http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/2008/07/10/please-dont-be-offended/#comment-482 SHARON Sat, 19 Jul 2008 02:12:19 +0000 http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/?p=123#comment-482 Your grandpa and grandma were loved by many. Growing up in Greentown, your family means the world to me. Since your mom and I stay in touch, I was so glad that you had posted about your Grandpa's passing so that I could immediately call your mom and catch them before they got on the plane. Believe me, it takes a strong family to take care of aging parents and your family did an outstanding job. Thank goodness that you could post honestly and openly. Your grandparents will be greatly missed. May your memories of them be very special to you. God Bless! Sharon Weisel Your grandpa and grandma were loved by many. Growing up in Greentown, your family means the world to me. Since your mom and I stay in touch, I was so glad that you had posted about your Grandpa’s passing so that I could immediately call your mom and catch them before they got on the plane.

Believe me, it takes a strong family to take care of aging parents and your family did an outstanding job. Thank goodness that you could post honestly and openly.

Your grandparents will be greatly missed. May your memories of them be very special to you. God Bless!

Sharon Weisel

]]> By: Ries http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/2008/07/10/please-dont-be-offended/#comment-479 Ries Mon, 14 Jul 2008 18:54:42 +0000 http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/?p=123#comment-479 Noel, I never actually changed my post, this was simply an additional post to clarify statements. My original post about Grampa is still up and I have no intention of taking it or any future post down. I am a strong advocate of free speech. I think some people forget that means we also have a responsiblity to grow thick skin because you are not going to agree with everything other people say. That is easy to say but not as easy to practice. I admit to being a little perturbed when I heard that people were offended at my attempt at a tribute. But that is fine, I decided I would further clarify what I said so there is no confusion. If people were still upset (which I don't believe they are) then it is not my concern because my only crime was sharing my thoughts. Noel, I never actually changed my post, this was simply an additional post to clarify statements.

My original post about Grampa is still up and I have no intention of taking it or any future post down.

I am a strong advocate of free speech. I think some people forget that means we also have a responsiblity to grow thick skin because you are not going to agree with everything other people say.

That is easy to say but not as easy to practice. I admit to being a little perturbed when I heard that people were offended at my attempt at a tribute. But that is fine, I decided I would further clarify what I said so there is no confusion. If people were still upset (which I don’t believe they are) then it is not my concern because my only crime was sharing my thoughts.

]]> By: Michelle http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/2008/07/10/please-dont-be-offended/#comment-478 Michelle Mon, 14 Jul 2008 18:08:57 +0000 http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/?p=123#comment-478 Howdy, Noel. Happy to see you in these parts. I hope all is well with you. Howdy, Noel. Happy to see you in these parts. I hope all is well with you.

]]> By: noel http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/2008/07/10/please-dont-be-offended/#comment-477 noel Sat, 12 Jul 2008 14:42:16 +0000 http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/?p=123#comment-477 Ries, i didnt get to read this blog before you fixed it but i think you dont need to worry and apoligise for offending anyone. none of the immediate family was offended that i know of, and we all got what you were trying to say, and like Katy said our family did a great job caring for both our grandparents, and people who have no idea of what went on have no right to be offfended. my love goes to you and the family (p.s.) i am bad with words as well love you and hope you are well noel Ries,
i didnt get to read this blog before you fixed it but i think you dont need to worry and apoligise for offending anyone. none of the immediate family was offended that i know of, and we all got what you were trying to say, and like Katy said our family did a great job caring for both our grandparents, and people who have no idea of what went on have no right to be offfended. my love goes to you and the family (p.s.) i am bad with words as well

love you and hope you are well
noel

]]> By: Auntie Katy http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/2008/07/10/please-dont-be-offended/#comment-473 Auntie Katy Thu, 10 Jul 2008 20:19:30 +0000 http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/?p=123#comment-473 The great thing about humans is that we were given free will...including the freedom to think, feel, and express whatever comes to the mind or heart. If anyone has cared for an ailing family member, they will understand that it is difficult no matter the circumstance and there is a need for respite. Our family did an extraordinary job of caring for both Granny & Grandpa, moreso than many families I have seen in my work, and for that, I am proud, and they should be commended. That being said, there should be no need for apology or concern about offending anyone. Let's remember this is not about us, it is about Grandpa. The great thing about humans is that we were given free will…including the freedom to think, feel, and express whatever comes to the mind or heart. If anyone has cared for an ailing family member, they will understand that it is difficult no matter the circumstance and there is a need for respite. Our family did an extraordinary job of caring for both Granny & Grandpa, moreso than many families I have seen in my work, and for that, I am proud, and they should be commended. That being said, there should be no need for apology or concern about offending anyone. Let’s remember this is not about us, it is about Grandpa.

]]> By: ranger http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/2008/07/10/please-dont-be-offended/#comment-472 ranger Thu, 10 Jul 2008 20:04:56 +0000 http://defyinggenetics.wordpress.com/?p=123#comment-472 Hey, Ries. I'm sorry people jumped on you. I know you loved your grandpa and you may remember how much I loved mine. When he died and I couldn't go home for the funeral, I was crushed but I asked you guys to give the old guy a sendoff he would have appreciated and we all drank to him on New Years Eve. That meant a lot to me and made me feel like less of a heel for not spending the huge amount of money it would have taken to fly home for his funeral. What matters more is that your loved ones know that you love them and they can hold that in their hearts as they pass on. I'm sure Grampa Jack knew. Hey, Ries.

I’m sorry people jumped on you. I know you loved your grandpa and you may remember how much I loved mine. When he died and I couldn’t go home for the funeral, I was crushed but I asked you guys to give the old guy a sendoff he would have appreciated and we all drank to him on New Years Eve. That meant a lot to me and made me feel like less of a heel for not spending the huge amount of money it would have taken to fly home for his funeral. What matters more is that your loved ones know that you love them and they can hold that in their hearts as they pass on. I’m sure Grampa Jack knew.

]]>